Fix cflags D_GLIBCXX_USE_CXX11_ABI takes no effect problem in customized op (#37878)

Author: Aurelius84

python/paddle/utils/cpp_extension/cpp_extension.py

@@ -440,7 +440,7 @@ def unix_custom_single_compiler(obj, src, ext, cc_args, extra_postargs,
                 # so we add this flag to ensure the symbol names from user compiled
                 # shared library have same ABI suffix with core_(no)avx.so.
                 # See https://stackoverflow.com/questions/34571583/understanding-gcc-5s-glibcxx-use-cxx11-abi-or-the-new-abi
-                add_compile_flag(['-D_GLIBCXX_USE_CXX11_ABI=1'], cflags)
+                add_compile_flag(cflags, ['-D_GLIBCXX_USE_CXX11_ABI=1'])
                 # Append this macor only when jointly compiling .cc with .cu
                 if not is_cuda_file(src) and self.contain_cuda_file:
                     if core.is_compiled_with_rocm():